A blog about my life as a Pinay single mom in a traditionally Catholic country. Being a single mom has given me a great purpose in life and having Marti was the greatest miracle I could ever experience.
"The unexamined life is not worth living." ~ Socrates
That's probably the quote from high school that stuck with me the most. So at 38 today, I decided to go back on my life and look if I've examined my life well enough and found the journey quite liberating. I thought of sharing here what I found out about myself in the hopes that you'll get an idea of who I am or if you already know me, at least to understand me better. Fair warning, if you get offended by some of the facts I reveal here, I won't be sorry :) Read on...
1.I was at my happiest when I was pregnant with Marti.
Sometimes bullying is not physical, mere insults could just be as devastating. This was my fear for my Marti when he started schooling in my Catholic alma mater. Was afraid that he'd be teased as an "illegitimate child" or "fatherless", knowing how kids could be cruel especially in a strict environment like that. Thank God nothing like that happened and Marti is known as one of the friendliest in his school. Even got surprised that he had friends in different grade levels!
Anyway, was surfing the net and read an article from the Huffington Post about Anderson Cooper discussing his shock to seeing a previes of Vince Vaughn's latest movie where he makes a "gay" remark.
As Anderson (without naming Vaughn or the film) tells Ellen (on the Ellen Degeneres Show):
I was sitting in a movie theater over the weekend and there was a preview of a movie, and in it, the actor said, 'that's so gay,' and I was shocked that not only that they put it in the movie, but that they put that in the preview, they thought that it was okay to put that in a preview for the movie to get people to go and see it.
I just find those words, those terms, we've got to do something to make those words unacceptable cause those words are hurting kids. Someone else I talked to recently said that the words people use and the things people say about other kids online, it enters into their internal dialogue. And when you're a kid, it can change the way you see yourself and the way you think about yourself, and the worth that you give to yourself. I think we need to really focus on what language we're using and how we're treating these kids.
